I wrote a list of ten things I look for in a guy when I was a freshman in high school. This was a big step, coming from a girl who never wanted to get married, who didn't believe in true love. I'm not posting the original list, so if you'd like to see it, let me know and I may post it in a future entry.
Some of my friends have INTENSE lists of things they require in a future husband. Seriously. "I want him to have this type of build, this color hair, this texture of hair, this long of eyelashes, this shade of skin, play this and this sport..." And I truly, truly hope that they get everything they hope for. I don't have much of a "type." Sure, I'm attracted to some guys more than I am others, but there isn't a certain color of hair or eyes that really attracts me more.
What I'm most concerned about while I'm looking for a future husband is his relationship with the Lord. If he isn't faithful to God, then how will he ever be faithful to me? If he isn't mature in his walk, then how will he be able to help me grow in mine? If he puts himself or a material possession over the Lord, won't he do the same for his family? His relationship with Jesus is so important.
Today I rewrote my list of things I'd like in a guy. It's pretty similar to my first list, with a few points changed here and there. But here is what I have:
1.) My future husband must be a follower of the Lord. This point will never be changed, which is why it is number one on my list. My FH needs to be a man of God. I want him to always put his relationship with the Lord ahead of his relationship with me.
2.) My FH needs to be loyal. Divorce should never be an option. Even when we struggle and fight, which I'm sure we will, he cannot be willing to give up.
3.) He needs to be nice to his mom. This might sound silly, but this is so important to me. A guy who is disrespectful to his mom will surely treat me that way one day. He must be respectful and protective of his mother.
4.) While I would love for my FH to lead me spiritually in some areas, he also must be able to view me as his partner, as his equal. If we disagree on something I firmly believe in, he cannot try to push what he believes on me, simply because he is the man. He needs to respect me for who I am.
5.) He must have a passion for ministry. He doesn't have to be a full time missionary, but he must love to serve others in some way. It'd be extra special if we could go on mission trips together every year. :)
6.) I want to feel safe around my FH. I want to be with someone who protects me and makes me feel loved and secure.
7.) He won't cuss. Not just around me, but he won't cuss around his buddies as well. He won't get drunk, smoke, or look at pornography. He'll stand up for what he believes.
8.) I'd like my FH to be a musician of some sort. I don't care if he plays an instrument, has a nice singing voice, or is a great songwriter. In fact, if he's the one for me, then I'm okay with him simply having a LOVE for music. But marrying a musician of some sort would be extra special.