Monday, July 25, 2011

Things I Look for in a Guy

L: Love

Some of my friends have INTENSE lists of things they require in a future husband.  Seriously.  "I want him to have this type of build, this color hair, this texture of hair, this long of eyelashes, this shade of skin, play this and this sport..."  And I truly, truly hope that they get everything they hope for.  I don't have much of a "type."  Sure, I'm attracted to some guys more than I am others, but there isn't a certain color of hair or eyes that really attracts me more.

What I'm most concerned about while I'm looking for a future husband is his relationship with the Lord.  If he isn't faithful to God, then how will he ever be faithful to me?  If he isn't mature in his walk, then how will he be able to help me grow in mine?  If he puts himself or a material possession over the Lord, won't he do the same for his family?  His relationship with Jesus is so important.

Today I wrote my list of things I'd like in a guy.

1.) My future husband must be a follower of the Lord.  This point will never be changed, which is why it is number one on my list.  My FH needs to be a man of God.  I want him to always put his relationship with the Lord ahead of his relationship with me.

2.) My FH needs to be loyal.  Divorce should never be an option.  Even when we struggle and fight, which I'm sure we will, he cannot be willing to give up.

3.) He needs to be nice to his mom.  This might sound silly, but this is so important to me.  A guy who is disrespectful to his mom will surely treat me that way one day.  He must be respectful and protective of his mother.

4.) While I would love for my FH to lead me spiritually in some areas, he also must be able to view me as his partner, as his equal.  If we disagree on something I firmly believe in, he cannot try to push what he believes on me, simply because he is the man.  He needs to respect me for who I am.

5.) He must have a passion for ministry.  He doesn't have to be a full time missionary, but he must love to serve others in some way.  It'd be extra special if we could go on mission trips together.

6.) I want to feel safe around my FH.  I want to be with someone who protects me and makes me feel loved and secure.


  1. What are your views on modesty, and what are the limits?

    If you could play any sport, what would it be?

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  2. I was wondering, how do you get some many people to read your blog? I mean, obviously you don't know everybody who reads your blog (like me) but how do you get them to start reading it?

  3. When I was in college, I had a similar list for a wife. I have had to reconsider some items on my list to not be so narrow-minded as I once was. You can't put limits on God.

    I have yet to find someone to share my life as of yet but I would much rather be single than make a mistake. If God wants me to stay as I am (single--in my 30's) then that is the way it has to be (part of me hopes

    I pray you find what you are looking for, not too many young people these days own their faith as you have. Good job!

  4. I agree with #3! :) It's so true.

  5. I actually did this same post not too long ago when #WhoeverIMarry was trending on Twitter. Now, I'm not sure what I'm going to do tomorrow...

  6. Amazing. My list is almost identical!

    Number 8 is something I struggled with this year. I initially had thought, "If he doesn't play an instrument, I'm not interested." (Music is SO important to me that we must be able to share it. I was very fearful that, if my FH were not musical, I would find myself weakening and drawn to some other guy because we made music together. Does that make sense?)

    However, over this past year, I've come to the conclusion that I was being a liiiiittle narrow-minded, and I've since revamped my expectation to be, "He needs to love music." He doesn't necessarily have to play or sing anymore, though that would be extra-special, but he has to be able to appreciate it with me. I think that is the core issue for me.

    Funnily enough, God has brought along a wonderful man that I'm now dating, and guess what? He doesn't play an instrument! He does sing in church, though, which is a good sign... :)

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