Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Why I chose not to date.

Beware.  Today I'm writing about romance.

I decided at the beginning of my senior year that I would not begin a romantic relationship until I went to college.  This might seem extreme to some, but there are reasons behind my decision.  I thought I'd go ahead and share my logic.  Here are a few reasons why I decided not to date my senior year.

The older I get, the more serious my relationships can become.
Since I'm eighteen, I'm technically old enough to get married.  I'm nearly ready to date "for real."  Sometime within the next couple of years, I true love red jpgmight even meet the guy I'll end up marrying.  Even if I casually date a couple of the guys at my school or my church- because we're getting older and more mature- our fun and casual dates could turn into something more.  At this point in my life I'd like to branch out a little and meet my future spouse somewhere other than the place I've grown up.

I'm moving away soon.
Why would I even want to suffer the heartache of having to move several cities away from my boyfriend?  We're seniors.  Chances are, we'd probably attend different universities.  (And I most definitely do not want to feel pressured into attending the same university as my boyfriend just because I don't want to leave him.)  Starting college is going to be hard enough without having to try to keep up with a long distance relationship.  Plus, I'd like to enjoy being single on the college campus.  I'd like to go on dates and meet new guys.  I don't want to be held back by a guy I started dating in high school.

I want to focus on more important relationships in my life.
Right now, I don't want to keep up with the emotional roller coaster of a romantic relationship my senior year.  I'm about to move away from my family and friends.  Instead of worrying about going on dates and keeping a boyfriend happy, I'd much rather go on dates with my daddy or have a girls night out with my best friends.  I don't want to look back in a few years and think, "I wish I'd spent more time with my family instead of that guy who broke up with me three months after we started college."  There are more important relationships in my life right now and I'd like them to stay at the top of my priorities.

I need to spend more time working on my relationship with Jesus Christ.
I know my faith will be tested when I go to college, so I'd like to spend more time focusing on my relationship with the Lord.  If I'm busy with my senior year, spending time with my family and friends, and keeping up with a boyfriend, then I might lose focus on the One who matters most of all.

So that's why I've chosen not to date my senior year of high school.  Dating is fun, sure.  However, in my life right now, the emotional stress just isn't worth it.  I can wait.  You know, I don't think God has planned for me to find my future husband in my hometown.  I know I'll find him eventually, but I don't think it will be here.

The song "Wait" by Group 1 Crew just came into my head.

For now I patiently wait for you to come my way,
And I won't hesitate when you make your way right to my heart.
'Til then I'll patiently wait.

I found the photos I used in this entry here and here.


  1. I decided not to date in high school when I was 15 (at least, that's when I made my decision "official"). Of course, I could have easily bypassed that rule when I was 16 and finished high school early, but I decided to wait until I was at least 18 (which would have been the summer after my senior year). Somewhere between then and my 18th Birthday, I decided to wait even longer. I'm not sure when I'll start dating. It's not that I'm completely against the idea anymore. I'm more and more open to the idea of having a boyfriend, but I want to date one person: the person I'm going to marry, and right now I'm definitely not ready to get married. I have time to worry about that.

  2. I think that's cool. I'm only a freshman in high school, but in eighth grade, i decided not date until high school. it's already been hard, but i'm determined to stick to it.

  3. Barlowgirl's song comes to mind too...

    "So what I'm not your average girl
    I don't meet the standards of this world
    Chasing after boys is not my thing
    See I'm waiting for a wedding ring

    No more dating
    I'm just waiting
    Like sleeping beauty
    My prince will come for me
    No more dating I'm just waiting
    'Cause God is writing my love story

    Boys are bad that's certainly not true
    'Cause God's preparing one for you
    If you get tired waiting till he comes
    Gods arms are the perfect place to run

    Sleep that's the only thing
    For me 'cause when I sleep Gods
    Preparing one for me"